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Nudges


I caught myself  having this thought some time in January... aaand behold!

I have never found myself in a ceaseless turmoil than recently, thankfully they are not grave. Just annoying because they happen really fast and I feel they hit me on my blindspot. As I slowly chew and digest them, I need to remind myself to stay calm and accept that I cannot solve them, even making sense out of them needs time. What I've noticed though, is that when I inject improvements in my life, no matter how small it is, the other aspects fall into their proper places. 

 This time, more than I can remember, I'm deliberate on how I respond to life - tough! Even after, what I like to think, calculated evaluation of the choices, I still doubt the decisions I've made - like a terrible episode of buyer's remorse, I am learning to live with them. Because as Alan Watts said: "everything could've been anything else, and it will have just as much meaning." Another consolation I calm myself with is Steinbeck's letter to his son: "don't worry about losing. If it is right, it happens - the main thing is not to hurry. Nothing good gets away." (I just have a slight dilemma with not hurrying as I am impatient.

 So now, I'm doing some nudges to influence refinement in my life. Here are some of my nudges. 
1. Meditation

 Im using Smiling Mind, for this. What I like about it' interface is simple and easy to navigate. Also, they have longer free trails.
2. Journal

 Im writing more often than before. Writing, especially in my journal where I can freely communicate everything without filtering, helps me process things better. 
3. Practicing Gratitude

 As long as I can remember, persons of authority have told to be thankful with what we have, and so it has become one of my truths that I practice. Recently, there have been studies done to show that empirically, practicing gratitude is beneficial to our brain. In an Inc article it said that it "seems to kick off a healthful, self-perpetuating cycle in your brain -- counting your blessing now makes it easier to notice and count them later. And the more good you see in your life, the happier and more successful you're likely to be."

 Now, Im more mindful at practicing gratitude by writing down things I am grateful for.


I cannot wait for the day when I look back and won't even remember how terrible some days were, that anxiety attack was a killer! Hah!

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