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Loosen Dont Cut

If I must, or the circumstances demands, I loosen ties not cut them, I am deliberate at that.

I've always thought that I am lucky to have met the people that I have because, trite as it is, they molded me in who I am today. Most of whom I've spent good memories with are the kind I want for in my tribe. I'm very picky and can be a snob because I am obsessed with efficiency and I generally don't have patience for people who exhibit things that are not aligned with my personal values.

In recent times, I've been catching up with people who I loosened the ties with. Reasons vary, but to summarize it, its because our lives transformed from where we used to be. It's a good feeling to know that these people are still here.

Now, I think generalization is not the best form so let me share a few.

It was a pleasant surprise to hear from Callum, a traveler I crossed path with in Ho Chi Minh randomly checked up on how's life treating me. The record for the cheapest beer I drank was still that night when we strolled the city. He now lives in New Zealand. It was nice to talk to somebody who has the same travel itch as I do. I haven't thanked him for the lovely chat yet. I will.

Tani! Who's house I passed by in some days on my commute to work. Met him in Alchemy way back when it wasn't yet 7-11. Tani is one of the few who tells me I look good, I know I do, but its nice to hear it from a gentleman. I think its a guy friend's duty. I need to wake up earlier to have some coffee at Tani's house before I head to work.

Camil who I still haven't seen in such a long time. Its nice when someone sends a cute message of happiness! Plus she's someone I admire also, a strong/brave woman, not to mention she's really pretty and sexy!

Reg! She's helped me big time in my first job. I think she doesn't know the weight of her life's presence to mine, but I don't think my mindset will be like this hadn't I spent a good amount of time with her. She was so patient and most times really objective. I'm really lucky to be seated between her and Cal, the good things we thought and the good laughs we shared. I'm seeing her next week!

Was talking also with Patrick last night. He threw a good question in which the answer surprisingly came out to be better - freedom and trust. He said, money cant buy that and I couldn't agree more. It was actually a hard question but those two words, oddly I just realized are paradoxical, were the first things that came out of my head. Always good to chat with this guy, he always reminds me of another dream that I have too many excuse not to pursue yet - makes me feel like a wimp.

Aand, a few more... It's a comforting thought that I am still connected with the people I met in my previous lives. Everytime we reconnect I am reminded of how much I have changed and how much remained the same and how grand it is to have spent some good times with them.

"Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and lifestyle
For as the older you get, the more you need the people you knew when you were young"


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